7 Ways to Be a Gentleman in the Next 7 Days

Posted on April 14, 2011 by forgetfulgentleman | 5 Comments

By Nathan Tan

With our busy lives, being a gentleman often requires being intentional about our interaction with the world around us. Here are seven quick and easy, yet thoughtful, ways to be a gentleman this week. Enter them in your calendar, jot them on a post-it note or write them into your to-do list to remind yourself. Try to do at least one of these each day and then share with us any stories of how this impacts your week!

1. Encourage or compliment someone unexpectedly.

Take the time to intentionally build someone up. Tell a stranger on the street you like their style. Tell a loved one how much a recent interaction meant to you. Make sure a co-worker knows how much you appreciate their effort. Let your boss know you think he's doing a good job (the top can often a lonely, unappreciated place). Make whatever you say genuine, specific and unexpected and you'll absolutely make someone's day.

2. Do a favor.

And don't expect anything in return. You might even do it anonymously and without prompting.

3. Cook for someone.

It could be giving your wife or significant other the night off to just relax. It could be asking a friend over for dinner. If you're bold enough you could even invite a complete stranger to share a meal. Either way, food is often a precursor to developing and growing relationships.

4. Dress up your look a notch or two for no reason.

How we dress is a sign of respect to the people and environments we come into contact with. If you don't normally wear a tie, wear one. Work in a business casual office? Throw on a sport coat for the day. Put on the best version of yourself when you walk out the door and who knows, maybe you'll feel more confident. Maybe someone will take you more seriously. Or maybe not. Either way, it'll show everyone that you care and that, after all, is very gentlemanly.

5. Ask questions. Listen to answers.

We all like to talk about ourselves. Be intentional about carrying on a conversation where its all about the other person. Try not to talk about yourself at all. It's harder than it sounds!

6. Become well informed about an important issue.

Educate yourself on something important and then engage in the ongoing discussion. A gentleman is a man of substance and its good to have a firm position on an issue as long as its well informed and thoughtfully arrived at. Make sure you consider both sides, if you keep an open mind you might surprise yourself!

7. Send someone a handwritten note.

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April 20, 2011

This is basic manners that should be taught in schools for the greater good of mankind. Other easy to acquire tips are walking on the kerb side of the street when with a lady, give up seats or hold doors open for infirm, pregnant, but in this day and age of feminism, just check with women. I always use a fountain pen for my handwritten notes it seems a bit more personal.


May 02, 2011

What a beautifully simple, elegant list – and I couldn't agree more. As a mens' Personal Style Expert (w/ HendricksPark.com), I'm amazed at how many clients truly want to be gentleman — they just never learned how and don't know what to ask. Of course dressing well naturally leads to feeling and acting like a gentleman, which is a wonderful transformation we love to see! Thank you for the great article to share.

Tom Bosché
Tom Bosché

April 14, 2011

Nate and Brett – Great post … forwarding to son and daughters. Keep up the great work! Best, Tom

Easy and Elegant Life
Easy and Elegant Life

April 15, 2011

You might combine suggestions one and seven and send a handwritten note complimenting or thanking someone who has waited on you, done you a good turn, etc. .Just a thought.

The Original Forgetful Gentlemen
The Original Forgetful Gentlemen

April 15, 2011

Tom, thanks for the kind words. We appreciate your continued support of Forgetful Gentleman.Easy and Elegant, great suggestion! You could also combine 3 and 4 and cook dinner in a tuxedo…but that would just be weird.

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